Family and friends send the videos on their phones. You choose the order, we join them into one film, and the room watches it together. Private by invite, and nothing is public unless you make it so.
Send one link. People record on their phone, add their name, and that is the whole task. Asking a grieving family to sign up to something is how a collection dies.
Every clip comes to you before it is in the film. You decide what is in, what is out, and what order it runs in — quietly, without anyone being told they were left out.
Invite-only, with no public page and nothing indexed. If you later want it open — for people who could not travel — that is a switch you throw, not a default you undo.
The finished film and every clip in it stay where you put them, with each contributor named. It is a thing to keep, not just a thing to play once.